The standards. The etiquette. The reason this room feels the way it does.

Welcome to Kinksters of Color.

Before you walk through any door we open — a party, a munch, a chat, a play space — read this. All of it. These aren't suggestions. They're the floor. They're the reason this community feels safe enough for everyone to actually let go.

We built this for adults. We trust you to act like one.

THE FOUNDATION

KoC is a lifestyle community for kinksters of color, by kinksters of color. We're built on five pillars:

🖤 Maturity — show up grown
🖤 Consent — active, ongoing, non-negotiable
🖤 Safety — physical, emotional, energetic
🖤 Community — we protect each other
🖤 Equality — respect across every identity, kink, and dynamic

Respect the culture. Protect the space. Enjoy the community.

WHAT TO EXPECT AT A LIFESTYLE PARTY

Show up on-time for Orientation. Orientation covers party etiquette and venue rules. It's not optional — it's how we keep the space safe for everyone.

BYOB with backup. Lifestyle parties are bring-your-own-bottle. A bartender is on duty, and basic mixers and sodas are provided. Must be 21+ to attend.

Fun and games. Cards Against Humanity. Naughty Jenga. Music for dancing. Comfy furniture for socializing. Semi-private play rooms when you're ready for something more intimate.

Consent is always. Participation is always consensual — never required, never expected. Plenty of members come to socialize and watch, not necessarily to play. Both are valid.

Open door policy. Semi-private rooms offer more privacy than social areas, but doors are never locked. For your safety and ours.

Bring a towel. If you're nude or playing outside of a bedroom, lay a towel down first. Hygiene is hospitality.

GENERAL ETIQUETTE

Be courteous. Some activities may be uncomfortable to watch. Our outlook: your kink isn't my kink, but your kink is okay. If something genuinely concerns you, talk to Security. If it's just not your thing, head to the social area.

Ask for pronouns. Always ask, always offer. Never assume.

Don't touch. Ask before hugging — even if you know them. Ask before touching or picking up someone's toy or property (which may include other people).

Respect everyone. Identities. Lifestyles. Bodies. Boundaries. All of it.

Maintain discretion. Members may be private about their participation here for many reasons. Don't pry. Don't out anyone — even to other members. If you run into someone outside the community, keep walking unless they greet you first. Their privacy is sacred.

Watch from a distance. Some folks get distracted when watched too closely. Some have a wicked backswing. Stay out of personal space.

Talk elsewhere. Conversations belong in the social area. Inside play rooms, comments stay museum-quiet — no questions, no sustained chatter.

No phones. Phones are not used in the venue or during Orientation. Period.

No photos. Photos are not allowed in the venue unless explicitly approved and observed by the Manager On Duty.

Apologize when you mess up. A real apology earns more respect than pretending it didn't happen.

Comply with Security. They're there for everyone's safety — players and bystanders alike.

Know the rules. They exist for a reason. Read them. Remember them.

Follow your gut. If something or someone doesn't feel right, walk away. You don't have to play with anyone. You don't have to participate in anything. If a proposition feels alarming, talk to Security or the Host.

Clean equipment. Properly clean every piece of equipment with Envirocide when you're done. The next user deserves the same care you did.

THE NON-NEGOTIABLES

These are not "rules we hope you follow." These are reasons to be removed.

🚫 No coercion. No guilt-tripping. No passive-aggressive comments designed to wear someone down. We treat these as precursors to more serious offenses — because they are.

🚫 No non-consensual behavior. Ask, don't beg. Don't ask repeatedly. Anything that isn't an enthusiastic yes is a no — act accordingly.

🚫 No pressure tactics. "Just try it." "Come on." "You said yes last time." None of that flies here.

CHAT ETIQUETTE

The Telegram chat is an extension of the room. Same standards, different format.

🚫 No DMs without explicit permission. Always ask first — in the group, not in their inbox.

💦 Anti-thirst policy. Excessive thirst, constant DM fishing, or horny posting will result in removal. We're grown. Act like it.

🧠💜 No judgment. No kink-shaming. No yucking anyone's yum. This is a shame-free space. If a kink, dynamic, or preference isn't for you, scroll past. Ridicule and moral policing are not tolerated.

🔒🌈 Privacy and inclusivity are mandatory. What's shared in this group stays in this group. Discrimination or disrespect toward any identity or kink is not tolerated.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SOMETHING SERIOUS COMES UP

We take allegations seriously.

If concerning allegations arise — particularly involving sexual assault, coercion, or any pattern of consent violations — memberships may be suspended while the situation is reviewed and resolved. This isn't punishment before proof. It's protection of the community while we do the work.

Reports are handled with discretion. Survivors are believed and supported. Outcomes depend on what the review reveals.

We protect this space because it's worth protecting.

AGREEMENT

By participating in any KoC event, chat, or experience, you confirm that you've read, understood, and agreed to everything above.

These rules exist so the room can feel the way it does — easy, stylish, charged, and safe.

That's the deal. That's the standard.

Welcome home. 🖤

— KOC Where pleasure meets purpose.

HOUSE RULES